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Command Your Space Unapologetically, My Queen

Queen,

Have you ever found yourself in a situation where you are owed respect, yet you’re the one who feels obligated to apologize? To bend to the whims of others, even when they have wronged you? If this resonates, it’s time for a change. It’s time for you to start Commanding Your Space Unapologetically.

Unapologetic Command: The Birthright of a Queen 

Society often conditions us, as women, to downplay our needs, to swallow our pride, to smother our voice. But Queen, this is not our destiny. We are not here to feel small or to let others trample over our boundaries. We are here to shine, to lead, to command our space.

It starts with recognizing our worth. What are your non-negotiables? What are the boundaries you need to set for yourself to feel respected and valued? These are not selfish demands but rather assertions of your rights. Recognizing your own worth and commanding respect for it is the first step to harnessing the Queen energy you possess.

Next, we need to communicate our needs and boundaries, unapologetically. This doesn’t mean disregarding the feelings of others, but rather expressing our needs with firmness and tact. You don’t owe anyone an apology for demanding respect and asserting your boundaries. You owe it to yourself to live authentically and unapologetically.

Unapologetic Doesn’t Mean Rude

Being unapologetic doesn’t mean being disrespectful or dismissive of others. It means standing up for your values, your rights, and your dignity, while still respecting the humanity of others. It’s a delicate balance, but one that’s essential for maintaining your self-respect and commanding your space.

Remember, Queen, you are the ruler of your life. You have the power to demand respect, to set your boundaries, to speak your truth. Embrace this power and let it guide you to a life of unapologetic authenticity.

For further guidance on this journey, check out my book. It’s a powerful resource to guide you towards commanding your space, unapologetically.

Sincerely,

Self-Advocating Queens

Queen,

Do you dread when promotions roll out in the workplace? Or when you have to “sell” your achievements and contributions such as in a presentation or interview? You are not alone, this can be a common trait among us Sister Queens. But why is this? And what can we do to harness the Queen energy we have put the work in to manifest?

Becoming a Self-Advocating Queen, Unapologetically

Most of us Queens were raised in an environment where humility, quietness, and praising the efforts of others were valued. Coming from this, it can be a hard habit to embody our own confidence. Sometimes the person we need to give credit to is ourselves. When we recognize our own contributions to success at home, in the workplace, and elsewhere in our lives, we affirm our worth and our wealth.

What is your superpower? What are your gifts? What do you bring to the team that is essential to success or leadership? It can be hard to recognize these attributes in ourselves, but some self-reflection, mantra work, and asking others how they perceived a project and the individual contributions can help.

Noticing your contributions is the first step towards becoming the Queen you are meant to be. Nothing in the workplace is accomplished alone – what role did you play?

Next, you need to speak up about your strengths. What are the specific examples of your efforts in the most recent project? Why was this important? Helping others see from your point of view is a major step in owning your Kingdom and asserting your royal birthright.

Always More Than Enough

No matter your experience level, thoughts that say you aren’t enough can creep up – you may not have as much experience as your role models, or maybe you feel like you aren’t an expert yet in your field. These pesky thoughts are a sign of imposter syndrome, and they do not serve you. No matter where you are on your path, you have made it here, and here is a good place to be. You have done the work. You have come to the right place, and from here you can go anywhere. For more inspiration, check out my workbook. This will help you on your path to manifest your Kingdom. You have the drive and the passion, now is the time to roll your shoulders back and put your chin up. Harness your Queen energy and do all you do with the confidence of royalty.

Sincerely,

You Can’t Have Bravery Without Fear

Hey Queen,

Today, let’s talk about bravery, which you can’t have without fear. I’ve found that when I do the one thing that I fear in the moment – all the other things that I feared become a lot less scary, or otherwise completely irrelevant.


Fear Fuels Bravery

A brilliant business coach named Andie Monet said something that made me appreciate my fear. She said, “you can’t have bravery without fear.” That was great news for me, because when I decided to write a book, I found a lot of old fears coming back, and some new ones emerging.

As I thought about Andie’s words, “You can’t have bravery without fear,” I shifted my l mindset from thinking that fear is a restraint that’s holding me back – to recognize it as a tool that is pushing me to bravery. I imagined the shackles of fear coming off, and replaced that image with a gusting wind pushing me forward taking on my biggest challenges – and I did just that.


Facing One Of My Biggest Fears

Just before the release of my book, “The Queen’s Decree: Finding Purpose, Passion and Prosperity Your Way,” my biggest fear was hurting my parents. In my book, I share stories about my childhood, and some of the stories are difficult memories that are critical to understanding what I needed to do to step into my role as Queen of my own kingdom.

I wanted my parents to read what I had written before I published it. I put it off for months, and as the release came closer, I considered not publishing at all.

My inner Queen was hiding. And yes, I still have to call her out sometimes!

Then, I heard Andie in my mind, and I prioritized my value of bravery. I shared the book with my parents who, over the years, have grown as people, right along with me.

To be clear, the bravery came first in making the firm choice that the book I had poured myself into –and worked on for more than two years – would be published. Once that was done, while still very hard, talking about it with my parents was easier than my fear had led me to believe.


Remember, Queen – fear loses its grip when you realize that you actually need it to get that super satisfying feeling of bravery. You’ve got this, Queen.